Do you lie?

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It is often said that a lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on. I agree with this statement totally. I see lies being told by friends, family, politicians and countless number of people every day. I catch myself telling a convenient lie every now and then. Although it is not a life changing lie but is a LIE.
So what exactly is a lie?
When I type ‘lie’ in Google then it gives me, ‘an intentionally false statement’, so is a lie only telling some cooked up story and building castles in the air? I don’t think so. Hiding information is also a lie whether it is doing any good or not.
Truth needs no believers but lies do. We always want people to support us when we are lying. We try to gather as much people as we can in support of our lie. But when it comes to truth, do you need anybody to support you? I don’t think so. If you ask a person whether the moon is real or the sun, what reaction will you get? That person might just think that you are not sane. See? What is true IS true. It is just there. But when it comes to lying then you are deeply concerned to gain supporters.
But the real question is that is lying justified? Why do we lie? How much do we lie? Is it a habit?
I personally think that you can never have a black and white decision to decide whether lying is totally wrong or it is totally right. It has many shades and it is very important to understand all the aspects of it while deciding. My mother told a lie to my aunt when she was suffering from Cancer so that she doesn’t panic. Some might argue that she had the right to know about her life but then life is so unexpected and so short that if even for a short while, we get an opportunity to make a person smile, we grab it. My mother did the same, told a lie for a good cause.
But lying for the heck of satisfying our ego is pathetic and I myself am guilty of such lies. It is so convenient to lie that even when we have an opportunity to tell the truth then we are not sure of it because we are so familiar with the concept of lying. For some it is an addiction and it as lethal as any addiction. Lying makes us weak inside and every day rots inside us until the truth is told.
There was a man who always told lies. One day an old wise asked him that why he always lied and why he doesn’t give it a rest because sooner or later he will get caught. To which he replied that he deceives and lies to a person only once and moves on. He further added that there are so many people in the world that he doesn’t need to a lie twice to a single person. He said that he made a person very comfortable in his friendship and then in the end just deceived him. It was an addiction for him and he was always very confident of himself in that area. This is sad according to me. I am sure nobody wants to be like this sad soul.
So how do we stop ourselves from lying? I would say that self control is the key. Preparing ourselves before the lie hits our lips is of utmost importance. It is one of the elements of staying conscious. If you are conscious all the time of you deeds then you can never go wrong. Catch yourself before you tell a lie. I do that and it is not tough. I just remain silent for some time and the moment passes. It’s that easy. Plus life will take us nowhere with telling lying so it’s better we start telling the truth anyway.
Do you lie?

 

Customary Bonding

source:forestdalehotels.com “What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.”
― Mother Teresa 

I personally love this quote by Mother Teresa simply because it says so much about our world in a few words. It hits my heart right in the center. People of my age including me have a million suggestions to make this world better and still we are unable to make the situation at even our home improve even a little bit. We are so caught up in our own lives that we fail to even meet and love our own parents. Our homes have become mere hotels where the members of the family come to sleep at night because otherwise everyone is so busy in their life that there is hardly any time for bonding.

I agree about the lack of time factor as I am one of those who struggle due to the lack of time. But then on second thoughts I disagree because everything in life is tough and nothing comes easy. Only wishful thinking doesn’t help, ever. We have to manage time and spend some time with our family. Who will stand by us when we are all alone in this cruel world? The only answer that comes to my mind is “Family” and although we all know its importance yet we fail to acknowledge it in our daily life.

Our family and especially our parents are the ones who will always love us. The rest of the world only loves when you are good to them, you have to earn their love. But family loves you irrespective of what you do and how you are. But still we prefer spending time with all the people in the world but our family. We keep two phones but never call. We own several cars but we never go and meet them.

Go back in time and try to remember those small little talks your mom gave you or that extra money your dad slipped in your pocket hiding from your mom or the time when your sibling protected you from your parents’ wrath when you did something wrong. Precious moments, aren’t they? And yet we wait until the end of the year for Christmas and New Year to meet them.

I always see my parents and wonder how many more years I have with them. I live with them today but who knows what will happen tomorrow? I lost my grandfather contemplating upon whether I have the time to go and meet him or just call him. It has always made me suffer and somehow this holiday has made me realize the importance of family so much that I have decided to spend at least an hour daily with them. Just talking and sharing about my life and knowing about theirs.

Trust me the clock of your life’s time is ticking really fast and you have less time than you think you have. Live this moment and spend time with your family. Don’t make it a customary meeting but a time of love and joy. There is no one in the world who will accept you even when you are not good to them but your family. So go ahead and make the most of this holiday and promise yourself of a new beginning stating from next year which is soon approaching.