Do you lie?

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It is often said that a lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on. I agree with this statement totally. I see lies being told by friends, family, politicians and countless number of people every day. I catch myself telling a convenient lie every now and then. Although it is not a life changing lie but is a LIE.
So what exactly is a lie?
When I type ‘lie’ in Google then it gives me, ‘an intentionally false statement’, so is a lie only telling some cooked up story and building castles in the air? I don’t think so. Hiding information is also a lie whether it is doing any good or not.
Truth needs no believers but lies do. We always want people to support us when we are lying. We try to gather as much people as we can in support of our lie. But when it comes to truth, do you need anybody to support you? I don’t think so. If you ask a person whether the moon is real or the sun, what reaction will you get? That person might just think that you are not sane. See? What is true IS true. It is just there. But when it comes to lying then you are deeply concerned to gain supporters.
But the real question is that is lying justified? Why do we lie? How much do we lie? Is it a habit?
I personally think that you can never have a black and white decision to decide whether lying is totally wrong or it is totally right. It has many shades and it is very important to understand all the aspects of it while deciding. My mother told a lie to my aunt when she was suffering from Cancer so that she doesn’t panic. Some might argue that she had the right to know about her life but then life is so unexpected and so short that if even for a short while, we get an opportunity to make a person smile, we grab it. My mother did the same, told a lie for a good cause.
But lying for the heck of satisfying our ego is pathetic and I myself am guilty of such lies. It is so convenient to lie that even when we have an opportunity to tell the truth then we are not sure of it because we are so familiar with the concept of lying. For some it is an addiction and it as lethal as any addiction. Lying makes us weak inside and every day rots inside us until the truth is told.
There was a man who always told lies. One day an old wise asked him that why he always lied and why he doesn’t give it a rest because sooner or later he will get caught. To which he replied that he deceives and lies to a person only once and moves on. He further added that there are so many people in the world that he doesn’t need to a lie twice to a single person. He said that he made a person very comfortable in his friendship and then in the end just deceived him. It was an addiction for him and he was always very confident of himself in that area. This is sad according to me. I am sure nobody wants to be like this sad soul.
So how do we stop ourselves from lying? I would say that self control is the key. Preparing ourselves before the lie hits our lips is of utmost importance. It is one of the elements of staying conscious. If you are conscious all the time of you deeds then you can never go wrong. Catch yourself before you tell a lie. I do that and it is not tough. I just remain silent for some time and the moment passes. It’s that easy. Plus life will take us nowhere with telling lying so it’s better we start telling the truth anyway.
Do you lie?

 

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47 thoughts on “Do you lie?

  1. Excellent post. I have long contended that lies destroy people. I know of people who crawl into a shell because they are afraid of a lie being exposed, particularly when it comes to family. The lie begins to consume them & they are left with a hollow existence of trying to maintain the lie. I’m happy I found your blog. Best of luck! I will checking back in for more posts

    Paul R. Hewlett

  2. We lie in order to change reality. Most the times people who are habitual liars are very unhappy with themselves/life so they need to lie in order to create an alternate reality. “…it’s not a lie if you believe it.”-George Constanza that quote goes for both the person telling the lie and and the person hearing it.

  3. great post Tanu. Lies are lies regardless of the result or reason for them so I don’t believe in white lies etc but I would say we all lie for a good reason sometimes

  4. ‘Truth needs no believers but lies do.’
    Very well put.
    I for one pay a very high price – great loneliness – for not deceiving myself and consequently don’t indulge in lying….such a horrible waste of time.
    People eventually lie out of self-deception and if don’t adhere to current delusion, you automatically become many’s foe.

    ‘I delude myself and lie almost about everything as Truth is too cruel’ – that’s the most common song…Sing along with us, they say, but this music is fake and out of tune…

  5. Beautiful post…it is so much easier to construct a lie than to face the fears, low self asteam, inappropriate patterns and what not… I get angry if I sens someones’ lie yet I still do it my self and that is exactly where that anger comes from…Yes, the truth is just there, nothing to let go, no obstacles at all yet lies ties and make inappropriate attachements that are hard to let go…The Truth is just so liberating…if we could tell the Truth to each other at all times we would be liberated by now :)
    Thank you for this truthful and liberating post.

  6. Yeah, even intending to hide something is same as lying…I like your posts because you just dont stick to a single point…your posts encompass every detail and dimension of an aspect…It’s quite intriguing that how do you do it…

  7. We all lie to a certain extent. Its the damage or potnetial damage we need to be aware of. One harmless white lie goes largely unnoticed. However lies about WMD can have catastrophic consequences for both paries :)
    The difference seems to lie in the consequences of ur lie.

  8. A lie is justified if it avoids giving unnecessary pain. For example I am agnostic, (I.E. I am uncertain as to whether God exists). In the normal course of events I would share my agnostic beliefs with others, however if someone’s close relative or friend has died and they ask me whether the deceased has gone to heaven and/or do I believe in God I’d answer that I do have faith. To do otherwise and proclaim my agnosticism would be honest, however it would be a heartless action with the potential to cause great grief to the bereaved, consequently a lie would be justified in this situation.

  9. I only lie out of fear. I belong to a number of groups that still have a lot of discrimination against them, and to be frank, still get murdered for who we are. A lot. So every so often I find myself in a situation where I just don’t feel safe revealing the truth, and in those situations, I don’t. But when I’m not in those situations, I remind myself that I’m lucky enough to be in a safe situation at the moment, that I CAN tell the truth, and so therefore, I should, because maybe I won’t always be able to.

    • You know, you are protecting yourself. I don’t think anything is worth more than your life. Always save yourself if you can. The truth will be revealed one day or the other. But you can save your life only once.
      Best of luck!

      Thanks for connecting :)

  10. Great post! I thoroughly enjoyed it! Yes, I’ve lied. I love that you talked about putting a ‘conscious’ effort into not telling a lie. If I think before I speak or act, I have a better chance of saying or doing the right thing. I look forward to reading more from you! Thanks!

  11. Dear Tanushree, my mother told me not to lie, long ago…and I love her. Now and then,
    a situation arises, when to lie prevents more anger or lesser harm. A choice is made
    each time; but the lie does not become a way of life, nor an intentional harm except to
    one’s self.

    Also, years ago, when I first read Mahabharata…I’m sure I shall again…there is a passage,
    spoken by Yudhishthira, once read never forgotten: “A man may lie to save his life, his
    property, and his wife. But, should he?”

    We may regret the order of the valuation, but not its profundity. Be Happy.

  12. Very interesting read. I don’t think anyone is honest 100% of the time, and I think people lie in different ways. Some people lie to themselves or their children, their landlord or the government, on their taxes….

    It’s part of the human fabric. It takes tremendous commitment to never ever do.

    I do believe being totally honest can be done, but it definitely probably involves alot of discipline and intense devotion to truth.

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