The Art of remaining Happy

I often drive past those swanky cars in my neighborhood and almost instantly make a mental picture of those who own it and their lifestyle. The frequent 5 star visits, expensive clothes, diamonds and the level of opulence that we can’t even imagine that they are experiencing with the possession of wealth always makes one jealous. But does this make them the happiest creatures on Earth?

I know some of these people and although they are happy but with there is the absence of real fulfillment and contentedness. It’s all in the mind. Being happy is a state of mind and it possible can’t be achieved truly with only the possession of materialistic things. Happiness is one thing that God has reserved equally for everyone. God has given the same rights to the poor as to the rich to be happy in life.

Real opulence doesn’t come with an empty cradle. A cradle is beautiful only when a baby is sleeping inside it or smiling even if it is a wooden one. An empty gold cradle has no value in my eyes. I learnt this from my Guru. If real happiness comes from the materialistic things then what would happen if that is taken away from you? If your house catches fire then make a point of saving the photographs and video tapes first as you can buy everything else but you can never have those memories back.

Keep good people near you. People may also just mean 1 person to you as you need someone who truly loves you. If you are fortunate then you may have a bunch of people who truly are there to share your sorrows and happiness. But even if it is only one person then make sure that you always value that person and thank God that you have a living soul with whom you can confide your secrets and be yourself. This is real happiness. Rich people slowly leave behind the importance of valuing people and although I have tried to make sense of their ways, I end up with nothing to support such a trend.

Spiritual happiness is tough to attain and although it is the highest form of experiencing God within you, people ignore it. The simple art of remaining happy is to understand that happiness comes with love. Love everyone around you and people will love you back. What you sow is what you reap. Cultivate love and true happiness will flow to you. Being rich means is to value what you already have. You are a rich person if you value what you already possess and you are being loved because that would mean that you really have perfected the art of being happy.


Are you an elastic or a block of wood?

One of the pitfalls of our current society is stress. It is chronic to the point of taking lives. Although stress has taken an altogether different meaning now, originally stress was an engineering term. Stress simply means the load which a component can bear before it fails under the increasing load. It is obvious here that lesser the load, less will be the stress. The more load you apply, the more stressed that object is. Also elastic can withstand high amounts of loads as it deforms according to the situation. But a block of wood is so rigid that if the applied load exceeds its bearing amount then it fails quickly. It shatters into pieces. Of course the elastic breaks as well but only after enduring and trying to contract back to normal. The wood gives up instantly.

Today people too often become that block of wood which breaks down instantly. There is stress of career, stress to earn more, the stress to strike a balance between home and work which rarely happens. There is something that is constantly hovering above us and driving us crazy. Rushing from one work to another and from one place to another is a common stress situation in our day-to-day life. We don’t stop for even a moment to relax and do things in a calm and composed way.

Life is like a small bird which keeps banging her head against the cage until you set it free to touch the sky. Try to be elastic in your thoughts and actions. Try not to be a rigid block which breaks down easily under pressure. Be strong-willed but flexible enough so that you don’t give in to the adversities of life. It is easy to give up on life. Giving a mesmerizing performance with no glitches is difficult and life is all about this performance. Shakespeare says it so magically- “All the world’s a stage and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances and one man in his time plays many parts.